Christian Dating Advice from a (Sober) Sex & Love Addict | How to Date with Intention & Faith

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Feb 28

02/28/25

Written by Fun Columnist, Riki B.

Dating is hard. Dating as a Christian? Even harder. Add my past as a (sober) sex and love addict, and let’s just say—you learn a thing or two about love, relationships, and, most importantly, God’s design for dating.

I’m spills the tea ☕ on how God redeemed and empowered my story and everything addiction has taught me about dating with intention, setting boundaries, and avoiding counterfeits. Whether you’re new to dating, getting back out there, or looking for something real, this incredible dating resource is for you!

Watch the video article now and scroll below for notes:

Notes on how to date as a Christian and dating with intention and fath :

Point 1: Curiosity kills a counterfeit!

Key Idea: Curiousity combats long lingering counterfeits.

Instant attraction doesn’t always lead to lasting connection.
Balance chemistry with compatibility.
Practical tip: Ask yourself, “Do I like them, or just the idea of them?” Then, ask them meaningful questions to go beyond the surface and stand out!
Watch video for examples of meaningful questions to ask while dating

Point 2: Be a Boundary Queen

Key Idea: Boundaries don’t push people away—they pull the right ones closer.

Setting boundaries fosters respect and emotional safety.
Practical tip: Identify your non-negotiables before you start dating.
Watch video for examples of non-negotiables while dating

Point 3: Flag on the Play! Green, Yellow, and Red Flags!

Key Idea: Don’t just focus on the red flags. Keep your eyes out for green ones too!

Inconsistent communication, bleeding people, love-bombing, and weirdos are patterns that let you know this is a red flag. Run!
Don’t ignore the red flags. Spot them and be informed by them.
Too much focus on trying to find red flags may have you miss out on green flags and the things that are good about the person. Make sure your perception isn’t imbalanced.
Practical tip: Talk to a trusted friend or wise counsel about what they see before you move forward. Stay Curious Cutie!
Watch video for suggestions on how to find wise counsel

Point 4: The Power of Being Single

Key Idea: Singleness isn’t a setback—it’s a setup for what’s next.

Being single can be a time for self-discovery and growth.
Embrace your single season as an opportunity for self-discovery.
Practical tip: Schedule solo dates & date nights with Jesus to learn more about your likes, dislikes, and values.

By the way we do have some couple and solo date plans coming your way but we want to know what kinds of things you’re into! Are you a long walk on the beach kind of girl or rock climbing? Share with us your interests and we’ll make sure to hop back on here with a full date of fun for you!

Point 5: Intentional Dating- Clarity Over Confusion

Key Idea: Know who you are, what you want, and where you’re going!

Intentional dating leads to deeper, more authentic connections.
Ask intentional questions early on in dating
Practical tip: Change dating to meet-ups! This will help take the pressure off dating, guard your heart, and most importantly, help you make clearer and better decisions. Don’t forget to have a goal for each meet-up as well.

The Big Takeaway

Key Idea: Do the Work!